Painful Mistakes I Wish I Knew About As A Visonary Leader

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Have you ever Worked really hard on something or really hard for something that you daydreamed about visualize and Romanticize, but when you finally acquire it, it wasn't it was all cracked up to be did you feel you know a little?

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deflated a little bamboozled This is not I've got got what is this?

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And this has been me In a number of situations, and I want to share with you today, some mistakes that I have made that I wish I was warned about when it came to being a change maker in society, when it

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to advancing some type of movement, when it comes to being a visionary in and I'm gonna be honest, may hurt some feelings in this episode, I may hurt some in this talk, but trust me, I think we have the relational equity where you understand this is coming from a place of love.

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And me wanting to save you, honestly, from pain that you don't have to experience to learn from it.

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And if you understand and apply these 13 things I'm going to share with you, I guarantee you in some way, form or fashion is going to save you from wasting some type of time, energy and, or money.

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On things that you think will give you what you're looking for, but in fact, it's truly just smoke and mirrors.

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And ultimately at the end of this, I believe you might have to listen back a few times, but you will become a more clear visionary because of it.

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So here we go.

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I'm going to just jump straight into this.

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Number one, and this is a tough one because it's hard to see sometimes.

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Number one is.

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Your vision can become your idol quickly if you aren't vigilant.

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Your vision can become your idol quickly if you don't remain vigilant.

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What is keeping and taking up the lion's share of your attention, your energy, your resources, your focus?

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What are those things?

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And if that is not God is an idol.

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And I know like, that's hard to fathom or think about.

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It's like, I got children, I got work, I got bills.

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I got all these different things.

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Of course, it's going to get more of my time.

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Like we got 18 hours.

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We're awake each day.

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How can I, Completely give that over to God.

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And I don't think that's the point.

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It's like, what is consuming you?

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What are you working on as a means to an end that is replacing God in your life?

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And for me, for a period of time, that was my vision.

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I was like if this can work, if I can make this come together, things will get better.

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Everything will be all right.

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And I was putting it up here, and things like my family, things like my spiritual walk and growth were diminishing.

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They weren't gone, I was still doing it.

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But like, shorter and shorter periods of time.

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Until I, you know, had to come to the fact, I was like, oh wow.

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This is idolatry.

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So yeah, like being vigilant of that.

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Keeping the main thing.

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Seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added unto you.

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That is the Easier said than done, especially when you have ambition.

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It's hard.

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And I don't think you'll be here if you didn't have ambition.

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So be vigilant that your vision can become an idol quickly, if you're not paying attention.

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Number two, you control your inputs.

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God controls your outcomes.

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Stop stressing yourself out, trying to do God's job.

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That's right.

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I said it.

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Stop it.

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Just cut it out.

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You cannot make the rain fall, nor the snow come down, nor the crops grow, nor the wind or the bees that spread the pollen.

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You don't control none of it, yet you benefit from it every single day.

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So why are you trying to control the narrative?

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You control the inputs, God controls the outcomes.

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I'm saving you a lot of gray hair, stress, frustration.

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And this is partially why I'm straying away more so from goals.

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Cause what are goals?

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If you really think about it, goals are just arbitrary figures that from some form, shape of influence we come up with.

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How much weight do you want to lose?

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You make up something, 50 pounds.

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I think that'll be good.

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That's good, right?

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How much money do you want to make?

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Uh, A million dollars.

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Where'd that number even come from?

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It came from nowhere definitive.

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But yet we bash ourselves for not hitting these goals when we just made them up in the first place.

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Control your inputs.

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Say, I'm gonna show up every day.

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I'm going to release a TikTok, a real Instagram, I mean, a YouTube short every day.

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Like, control that, because you can.

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And stop beating yourself up on how many views you're getting or how much money you're making.

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Because you can't control that.

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And the thing is, the better, the more you focus on the inputs, the better the inputs will be, and the better the outcomes will be as a result of your better inputs.

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But we can become so focused on the outcomes, That we don't even make the inputs better.

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Control your inputs.

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God controls the outcomes.

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Number three.

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Your vision will Oof.

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Yeah, shut up.

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I feel this one.

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Your vision will not give you freedom.

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Having nothing to lose, nothing to gain, nothing to prove, and nothing to hide gives you freedom.

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That's true freedom.

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Nothing to lose, nothing to gain, nothing to hide, nothing to prove.

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That's when you're truly free.

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And here's the thing, you can have all of that, whether your vision pans out the way you think it should or not.

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That's what gives you true.

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Not your vision coming to pass.

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Number four.

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You are playing the long game.

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Patience will improve your quality of life.

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There's a great book that I do recommend, called The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry, by John Mark Comer.

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Great book.

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And it really makes you realize sometimes we are rushing and we don't even know why.

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We're so used because I don't know if it's just Western culture or the United States or if you live in New York City, but We should be in a rush just to be in a rush You we don't even know why we're in a rush.

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I Don't know.

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I just want to get there faster But you're playing the long game Dave Ramsey says it like this We live like nobody else so that we could live like nobody else.

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You are playing the long game patience Will improve your quality of life, control the inputs, and remain patient.

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It took 25 years for the promised child for Abraham to be birthed 120 years for it to flood something that Noah had never even heard of before.

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120 years.

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And we're up in arms because our business isn't profitable in the first year, in the first month.

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Your YouTube short isn't getting enough views in the first couple hours.

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Play in the long game.

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Control the inputs.

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God controls the outcomes.

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Your patience will improve.

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Your quality of life.

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Number five, never stop creating.

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Hey, Daniel and Adrian never stop creating and never sell your authenticity.

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What's truly on your heart to share, share that not what you think wants to be heard, share that.

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Great definition of art that I love is being willing to create something that might not work.

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Being willing to make something that might not work.

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That is true art.

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And here's the thing about creativity and art.

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Don't blame your state of confusion on the fact that you're creative.

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Or that you're creating something.

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Instead own up to you just don't like to make hard decisions and therefore you're constantly in flux going back and forth with what you think people might like for you to make.

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Because a true artist, someone who is really dialed into their creativity of what God has called them to make, will make what they're supposed to make and be okay with the consequences.

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That's true art.

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Never stop creating and never sell your authenticity.

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If you do.

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You will get burnt out.

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Remember those outcomes.

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If you're making it for the outcome, it's only been so long.

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You can hold onto that.

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Even if it's working, you can go longer.

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If it's working.

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If it's not working, you're trapped.

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You're chopped and screwed.

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Hey, Teresa.

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Super glad.

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Oh my

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goodness.

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I'm driving.

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So I'm going to listen in mainly.

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Good.

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This is an OG y'all.

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Hey everybody.

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Yeah, never stop creating.

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Never sell your authenticity.

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Create.

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What is truly on your heart to share.

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Number six.

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Oh my goodness find employment That you enjoy and can support your lifestyle.

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Here's the kicker.

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Even if you don't love it, stay employed Now this might skew younger.

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I don't know it might not cuz Millennials I'm hearing some millennials that were in their 40 and they're just quitting.

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I'm like, wow, you got kids, but anyway find employment that you enjoy and can support your lifestyle, even if you don't love it, stay employed until God explicitly tells you to depart and, or your personal income from the vision exceeds your employment.

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Remember I said it, God explicitly.

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Don't forget that.

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Or the vision is, is paying your bills the way your job was.

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And here's the thing.

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Here's a reframe for you when it comes to employment while being a visionary leader, because it's hard.

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It can be very challenging.

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When you have this thing that you know that it could work and that it has some type of blessing on it and you just want to, you just want to go, you just want to go and you can feel like you can bring a hold back, but here's the thing you get paid to learn and your employer isn't even your employer.

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Really think about this.

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Your employer is not even actually your employer.

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You, they are, your employer is an investor with conditions.

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That's what they are.

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This is venture capital.

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Investing in your vision, all they're doing your job, your employer, they're just paying they're investing into your vision.

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You have built in venture capital.

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That's what that is.

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I haven't worked for anybody in years.

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I'm hiring you.

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Are you going to be a good investor for my vision?

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If not, I'll fire myself.

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That's I'm not exaggerating guys.

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You can ask anybody that really knows.

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You can ask any of my coworkers.

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In any job that I had, I'm like they're in my, they're my investor.

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This was my mentality from pretty much day one of me coming into the workforce.

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I'm like, these aren't my investors.

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Sometimes I've had multiple investors at once.

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That's unique, but it makes sense.

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Yeah it's just a reframe.

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It's a reframe that is helpful.

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that's a topic that I'm very passionate about because like you said, a lot of people are just like jumping ship after they make their first whatever and not understanding that.

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How much your employer really does contribute and that the consistency and income over time is what matters as well.

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In entrepreneurship, because you're not necessarily paid the same way that you are when you work a nine to five.

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So it's not going to be a consistent check.

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You may get one check for 50 K and then, you know, not another one for another two, three months and not another one for another, you know,

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Yeah.

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So being able to look at it that way, but also from a business perspective, depending on your vision and how big that grows, if you're going to end up having an organization, study the organization, you're a part of, see how it works, the inner work of it, network, see who you can connect with.

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Like I work in it.

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So it's like, who can I partner with to help build some of my systems and these things?

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What has been successful here that I can, you know, implement within my business as well.

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It's a great.

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Place to study and learn and develop and grow.

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Yes, this is you're getting paid to learn.

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What gets better than that?

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Before you had to pay to go to school.

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Now you're getting paid to go to school.

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It's, it really is a reframe and I'm speaking to this from experience.

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I don't talk about nothing on here that I have not done.

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I Quit my job before I was like, and this gets to a later point that I'm going to, I'm going to share with you guys.

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But I was like, nah, this is holding me back.

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I need to go all in.

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I started making more money on the side, doing my stuff, doing my hustle.

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Then I was making at my job.

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I was like, look, I got offered a promotion.

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Two weeks before I left my job.

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Well, because it was my two weeks notice, but like I offered a promotion.

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They were not trying to give me some things I was asking for.

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I wasn't asking for like more money and stuff.

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I was just asking for more opportunities.

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Like, can I go to a conference?

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Can I, things like that.

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Did not budge.

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They're like, nah.

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I said, great.

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I'm out.

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Now, do I regret doing that?

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I actually don't.

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God was doing something in me at that moment.

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I had to learn some lessons in that period when I left my job.

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I learned a lot about me.

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Learned a lot about me, but that money I was making on the side, four months in, start to dry up.

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And here's the thing.

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Here's the last point on that on number six that I want to share.

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You never want to be in a position where your creativity, the thing God has called you to create is being informed by your needs and not your generosity.

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Say that again.

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You never want to be in a position where your creativity.

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Is being informed by your needs and not your generosity.

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Oh, yeah,

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absolutely.

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I feel like that also ties into one that you said earlier about saying like what you're supposed to say and not what you think others need to hear.

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Because when it's need based, you may feel the need for other people to accept you.

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And so you want to say what they want to say, instead of honoring what God is building and what he has instilled in you to say to the audience.

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He gave you.

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Yes.

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110%.

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Adrian is on it tonight for sure.

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Yeah, you want to give out of the generosity of your heart, not because, and here's the thing too, when doing sales, when making an offer, right?

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Selling is not bad.

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Selling is a good thing when it's done morally and with integrity, you do not ever want to be in a position where the person that you're selling to can smell on your baited breath that you need it.

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It's just never a position that you want to be in.

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Yes.

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You always want to say, Hey, here's an offer that I think can help you.

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If you want it, it's yours.

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If not, it's okay.

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I'm not here to persuade you, I'm not here to convict you of anything.

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But you can only do that if you have investors.

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So, yeah, that's point number six.

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I wish somebody told me that.

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But nothing has been wasted.

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I learned and you'll hear why going into this.

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Number seven, no matter how much you think, you know, and for those who are coming in later, these are 13 things I wish I had known about visionary leadership.

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13 things I wish I'd known about visionary leadership.

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Number seven, no matter how much you think, you know, anyone and everyone can teach you something, anyone and everyone, it could be the infant in the row, in front of you at church that's just drooling all over their parents' shoulder.

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Just looking at you goog eye.

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You could probably learn something from them.

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It could be the elderly person.

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It doesn't matter how young, how old, how experienced, how inexperienced.

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You can learn something from everyone.

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If that baby knows something that I don't know, and I'm sure it does.

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I'm going to be like, let me take some notes.

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If it's an elderly, elderly person that can't even see no more, they know something I don't know, especially when it goes the other way around.

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So, especially in the workplace, younger person who may not be as experienced, may not have the chops, may not have the education.

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That you do, you can learn a lot from him.

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The way around, and here's the other thing too, you never know who's in the room.

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Never underestimate anybody.

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There have been so many situations where, I'm just thinking somebody, some just regular Joe Schmo, come to find out they him.

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She's her.

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And I'm like, Oh, wow.

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I did not even know you had all of that under your belt.

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So just always being a student can get you so much farther learning from anyone and everyone, no matter who, how qualified they are, how unqualified they are.

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Number eight, there's nothing new under the sun.

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Don't withhold your creativity because you didn't come up with the idea.

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This is big for visionaries because I'm sure.

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There's something that you want to create.

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There's something that you want to build or something that you are building and you were inspired by someone or something.

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Every visionary I've ever interviewed has been inspired by someone or something.

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But lots of times when we are novices and we're just getting started, we're scared to teach on, share, whatever's like, well, I didn't come up with it.

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So is it okay to use it?

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Is it okay to share it?

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And this is something that I definitely struggled with for a while.

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I was like, well, it's not original.

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I didn't make it myself.

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I shouldn't.

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It's not valuable because I didn't come up with it.

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One, that is a scarcity mindset to here's a newsflash.

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Whoever you heard it from, wherever you learned it, whoever said it, they didn't come up with it either.

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They got it from somewhere else too.

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Nothing is actually original other than God himself.

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Nothing.

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We are all building on each other's ideas, give credit and then make it better.

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That's how we do it.

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I was just giving this analogy the other day of when I was in school, when I was in college, I was really big into music and we used to just have these, we would schedule out jam sessions.

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Everybody's meeting, all the musicians would meet at a place just to jam indefinitely.

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And all it has to do is someone just starts off with a groove and then the next person riffs on that groove and the next person riffs on that riff and riffs on that riff.

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And next thing you know, you're jamming.

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Everything built on something else.

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Nobody came up with anything on their own.

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Even the groove that started it all.

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Heard it.

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You heard it somewhere.

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It's in your subconscious mind.

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So don't hold back something that you've learned, something that can help somebody, something that could be transformational because you learned it from someone else.

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Give credit and make it better.

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There's a great book.

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I recommend this one as well as an easy read, short read called steal like an artist by Austin Cleo.

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And he talks about the difference between, like, plagiarism and stealing like an artist.

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Plagiarism is taking what someone else did and claiming it as your own.

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Stealing like an artist is being inspired by something and then saying, you know what, I'm gonna use this and I'm gonna make it better.

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Cause the thing like only one fingerprint is like yours.

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So the way you even share it, the way you teach it is going to be different.

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Now I'm not saying you teach something and say that you came up with it on your own or even make it seem like you came up with, no, like the thing I just shared with you, I said, I learned this from still like an artist, Austin Cleon.

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That doesn't take away my credibility.

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In fact, it might increase it because it shows that I'm a learned and read individual.

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Oh wow, they have a lot of knowledge.

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They have a huge archive of information.

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Anyway I'm slightly behind schedule here.

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Number nine, stop implementing advice from people whose life you don't want.

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Here's a phenomenon for me.

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People who want to give the most financial advice, maybe this is in black families.

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I don't know.

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I feel like it's not though.

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I feel like it's everybody.

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The people who want to get the most financial advice, be the brokest people.

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I'm like, you broke.

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Why are you telling me what to do with my money?

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What are you talking about?

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No, I'm not taking advice from you.

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Oh,

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I don't want what you got.

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So no, I'm not doing that.

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But this goes for all types of things, even with people who are successful.

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The thing is, everyone is different.

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Poor where another person is rich.

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Yeah,

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so you can have all the money in the world, but they're going to see Jeff over there and Jeff is a joyful person.

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they will sacrifice anything They'll pay any amount of money to have what Jeff has because he's rich where they're poor.

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It goes the other way around too You know Jeff could be the most important Most joyful person dead broke now here though.

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It's just you're not a good spot if you're miserable and broke now, that's bad But my point is And this is something we have to be really cognizant of in the internet age because we have so much incoming information all the time, right?

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Tweets, the news, social media, YouTube, blogs, internet articles, all these different things coming at us.

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And here's the, here's what sets us apart in this community.

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We have the North Star of Scripture.

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We filter all this information through the scriptures.

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If it don't line up with the scriptures, Throw it away.

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He might be great at real estate, but if he's telling you to work 12 hours, 7 days a week because that's what it takes, throw it away because that goes against scripture.

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The Bible teaches us to rest.

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It also teaches you to be diligent in your work, but it teaches you to rest.

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It teaches us lots of things that go against the culture of Today and culture of today teaches a lot of things that go against the ways of the kingdom.

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So if you don't want it, I don't care how much he gets in sales, how much she makes on Etsy.

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If you don't want her home life, take it with a grain of salt and compartmentalize it, run it through the filter of scripture compartmentalize advice and apply it with discernment and wisdom, stop implementing advice from peoples whose life you don't.

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Had to come to that realization.

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I was like, man, I'm not doing enough.

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I got blah, blah, blah.

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I'm like, wait a second.

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He don't seem happy.

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I don't want the bags out of my eyes look like his.

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You know what?

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Let me go back to the Bible.

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I see what he got to say, but oh, this is how you're supposed to do it.

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OK.

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Anyway, number ten, You don't.

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This goes back to the employment thing that I was telling you about before.

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You don't need more time.

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You need more discipline.

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Now that might sound a little cliche, but let me share with you why it's not.

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Your productivity is not determined by how much time you have, but rather what you do and how well you use the time you do have.

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When I left my job, one of the main things that I felt this first job that I've ever had bachelor's degree, freshly baked.

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I Was like, man, this job holding me back.

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It's putting a ceiling on my advancement.

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If I just had more time, I will be more successful.

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You see what I'm doing right now?

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And I'm only doing that with like three hours a day.

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Imagine if I had eight hours a day.

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I'll do this, and this.

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Y'all, let me tell you something.

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I had not even become the person who knew how to work 8 hours a day for myself.

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Like, I, nowhere close.

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The job was not holding me back.

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I was my problem.

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Just wasn't disciplined.

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I had to have somebody else tell me what to do.

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I couldn't tell myself what to do and follow through consistently.

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Couldn't do it.

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It didn't matter that I had more time.

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It's it literally did not matter.

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You are going to only reach the amount of potential that you are at to that day.

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Just because you have more time doesn't mean you all of a sudden grow in character.

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Doesn't mean you automatically just grow and focus, grow in clarity.

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No, you're going to operate the level that you're at.

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Point blank period.

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This is why becoming the person who could do the thing is so important.

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Practicing being rather than the doing.

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Because if you focus on the doing, you'll just be in a state of frustration all the time because you just have not become the person that could do it.

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It's a tough pill to swallow.

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It really is, but I had to come to that realization.

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I was like, Oh, the thing that was holding back my business wasn't my external circumstances.

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It wasn't how much money I had or how much time I had or where I lived.

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It was me.

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I Was the problem.

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I just hadn't become the person who could do it.

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Let me focus on that rather than focusing on everything that's supposedly holding me back.

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That was a huge wake up call for me.

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